Decide what its important

Yes, i always have to say it every time i blog. Time really flies. I still struggle with the fact that time pass so fast.

Well, i was sharing a thought with a friend of mine the other day and i told her that i had long ago found out what everybody wants in this world. Yes, i found out that all of us are chasing the same goal and that is "to be happy". If i can summarise the reason why all the things that u do or plan, if you take away all the justifications, clear all the layers, the real reason behind is that you want to be happy.

Everybody wants to be happy. Some find happiness in getting a promotion. Others find happiness in being in total control and knowing they have what it takes to succeed. Others find that they are happy when everything is planned for and there are people who find that they can be happy as long as the sun is shining brightly. Of course, many people find happiness in material wealth. In Singapore, happiness is being written in a equation, known as H=5cs, or more accurately these days, H=6cs. =P

So, if i can make one statement, it would be that "Everyone in this world do things so that they can be happy." Many of us work so that we can achieve this.

However, i find that working is sometimes an irony for some people. We should see work as a means to achieve happiness, rather than it being the source of happiness. We work so that we can afford the things in life that make us happy. Of course there are some who really love what they do and they manage to find happines just by going to work. But for the most of us, its still the former.

If we can achieve these things without working, i am very sure none of us will want to work. So, we have to work because it provides us with the things that are ultimately important to us.

But sometimes, people lose focus of what is the real meaning behind working. Some people justify working 18hrs a day with this: "I work so hard so that i can earn more money to provide for my family, to give them the good things in life". So, they sacrifice time with the family, kids and friends so that they can work to provide for the very same people they disappoint everyday with their absence and their lack of attention for them. Ironic isn't it? We work so hard because we want to give the best to the people who are important but by working so hard, we often end up giving them less.

I sometime see people getting fustrated with their work. Some get irritated. Some work till so late that i wonder if they actually brought their sleeping bags with them to the office.

But i wonder why? I want to ask them why are they so angry, fustrated or irritated? Is it worth it to spend time feeling like this? I dun mean to say we dun put effort in what we do but rather i am saying dun lose focus on what is important in life.

To illustrate my point, for example if a stranger chooses not to help you up when you fall, compared to say your boyfriend or girlfriend who also do not even bother to help you up. Now, which person will hurt you more? Who will you be more disappointed with? No one will probably feel hurt and disappointed if the stranger refuses to lift a finger but we sure expect that someone we love to help us even if we did not ask for it, let alone when we do fall. Our expectations are higher because they are important to us and we hope that we are important to them as well.

So now that u have an answer to that, let me ask u another question: Which is more important: Work or family? Yes, i know they are both important. duh!!! But which is more important? We always change jobs and find new work but i think its not so easy to just change boyfriends or girlfriends so easily. Afterall how many of us actually think about or miss our previous jobs when we feel nostalgic? However, i dun expect everyone to say family is more important. There are people who devote all their time to the organisation. All i can say that is that i hope that the lives they gave for the organisation will be reciprociated of that like the boyfriend or girlfriend and not like that of a stranger. So it is for you to decide what is important in your life. Until you can recognise what is ultimately important in your life, i feel that you will struggle to find that happiness. Because if you do not even know what are the important things that you should place first, how in the world are you going to be happy in the 1st place?

I thank the Lord for His grace, mercy and love and for everything He has given to me. Nothing can ever be accomplished without God. All the plans you make are useless if they are not what God has intended for you. But we have a loving God who loves us so very much. Even the sparrow who do not sow or reap and yet God takes care of it, how much more valuable are we than the sparrow? When we realise that everything we have ever accomplished or achieved is because of the grace of God, we will then know that we are really nothing. Really insignificant. A lowly servant. We have achieved nothing of our own.

So, strip away your pride, peel off all your logical worldly explaination and clear all the fogs that cloud your life and ask yourself what are the important things in life. Afterall, is it that soup must be drunk only with a soup spoon or that fish can only be cut with a fish knife? Once you can see and understand that, you will find that sometimes, there are some things in life that are just not worth getting all upset and worked up about. =)

Seek ye first the Kingdom of God
And His Righteousness
And all these things shall be added unto you.

Praise the Lord!

God Bless!

Amen